Prevention

While there is no guaranteed way to avoid contracting herpes…short of total abstinence, it is possible for couples to have sex for years without any transmission of the virus.  The best practice is to simply avoid sexual contact when signs or symptoms are present.  Between outbreaks condoms, or other protection, is recommended to help protect against becoming infected.

Genital herpes does not mean complete abstinence from sex or even reduced enjoyment, the changes or getting the virus from your partner are small if you take the necessary precautions.

Condoms will greatly reduce the risk of transmitting the virus and in a long term relationship, using condoms is the only viable option a couple has if they are to continue having sexual relations.

Couples should avoid sexual intercourse at all cost during an active episode of herpes, which would include the time from the first warning signs of an outbreak, as this is the time when the virus is most likely to be transmitted.  Sexual contact will also prolong the healing process and is another reason for abstaining from sex during this time.

The likelihood of infection is greatly increased if there are any breaks or tears in the skin, sometimes as a result of “rough” sex or a lack of lubrication.  Sores around the buttocks or thighs can be just as contagious as the genital area and should be avoided as well.

Oral sex should be avoided if the other has a cold sore as this can spread the virus as well.

Herpes cannot be spread by sharing cups, towels or toilet seats.  The only way to contact the virus is through skin to skin contact with an active sore.